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Sirah in Flight

A reminder in Love Letter Form posted 2008
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Constitution of Love
(transcribed by GodFather Jason from an old love note written by my first puppy love-- Mark Edington circa 9/3/93)
We, the people young at heart, in order to form a more mighty hug, must act now do or done for the constitution of love.
1.     Bill of Truth
Vote to kiss whom you please, but please whom you kiss.
2.     Code
If you love them, say so. If not, say so anyways.
3.     Statements
Baby, if kissing is the language, then baby, we have a lot to talk about.
4.     Methods
A.    Kissing on ear – I need you.
B.    Kissing on the head – I adore you.
C.    Kissing on the cheek – Friends
D.    Kissing on the lips - I love you.
E.     Kissing on the neck or shoulders – I want you.
F.     Kissing anywhere else – Don’t get carried away unless you know what you’re doing.
G.    Playing with your hair – I can’t live without you.
H.    Arm around the waist – I love you too much to let you go.
I.       Looking into each others’ eyes – Kiss me.
J.      Kissing on the hand – I admire you too much to just be friends.
K.    Hickey on the neck, shoulders, etc. – You belong to your girl/boyfriend.
L.     Slap on the ass – Watch out.
5.     If a girl/the shorter partner slaps a taller partner/guy, he has the right to kiss her as long as he wishes.
6.     When kissing, close your eyes. (It’s not nice to stare)
7.     Don’t give up. You might have picked a shy one.
8.     Amendments
A.    Thou shalt not squeeze too hard.
B.    Thou shalt not ask for a kiss. Thee shall take it.
C.    Thou shalt kiss your love at every opportunity.
After reading this constitution, kiss the person who gave it 2U.


{Pass on Zen Hugs w/o prejudice or the need to resort to bribery. WHY? 'Cause money can't buy love; The Monkeys knew it, the Beetles played it & Classical music may bore you to tears nevertheless PASSION is why they played anything at all.}  





[In Memory of the faces of TeeVee; Johnny Carson, Christopher Reeve, Julia Child & also GodUncle Clive-- my favorite Twisted Sister and the Gay-est Brit in LA's Action/Reaction theater group-- In 1906 on October 23rd Suffragists could band together for their rights. Can you?]


Saved for the Night that Changed Everything
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explanations here soon.

Here Are Some Posters For The Men Who Tell Women What To Do Or What They Think Of Them In The Street
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Here Are Some Posters For The Men Who Tell Women What To Do Or What They Think Of Them In The Street

Also, the DivaLion Nice GUY rant or "why can't you give someone time" you might like them..

"No woman owes you her attention, her time, her interest, her admiration, or her love, no matter how worthy you think you are of them.

You are not entitled to have a relationship in your life just because you want one.

If you really aren't getting any women, it might be time to ask yourself (or someone you trust to be honest) what YOU could be doing differently.

Hitting on a woman when she's talking to you about her problems is just not cool. Especially if they are relationship problems.

If you can't be friends with a woman who's turned you down, especially if you find yourself getting really angry about it, you have no business being in a relationship until you work out your issues."

RESPECT does not give Strangers OrdersCollapse )



Consent is Respect

Returning to Release the old
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First thing is deleting the old neurotic profile... if it works-- woo if not, it goes!






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--Viva http://www.LifePrint.com--
Do it for your babies so they can talk to your parents! Hey old age happens.


*~*~*~*Attention!!!*~*~*~*


I often backdate many posts that have research mainly important to me to fill in gaps in time on my LJ and will often modify older entries to include more Eggs (AKA hidden links to encourage massive webhunts. *put them in a new browser window to look at later!*). I especially like messing with the entry that contains most of my random personal details:My Experimental Experiential Self. Go there if you want a better "Summary of me as an Individual". This journal is used as a forum and if I ever feel like having a frivolous blog... I will go find an appropriate site to join and let you know in links here and in the links list available on the sidebar of my LJ. I have a webpage I am trying to make look good already listed-- feel free to give me webpage/html advice on the ugly thing! I have made some pretty self-revealing postings in the past and am willing to let you hunt them up if you want to "know me" well. Most juicy posts get public after the emotions of the original incident are passed. Honestly, some things in my life are not important to tell a person that I have never met but, I am willing to press the edges of my comfort level for the sake of making a good friend who can be as honest with their personal self as I am capable of being with my public self. You might be surprised at what you learn about yourself simply by letting yourself be a true friend to someone who is interested in being a good friend.

To me THEE Internet = There are tons of interesting informative things to research on the web! I always have high expectations for myself and want to create a significant webportal to such items related to health, growth and spiritual healing. OKAY!~ & so very busted with a baby around am now once again hopelesxsly addicted to PETZ 5 ~ Once a gamer...


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"I see all life as a family. Where everyone is connected and everyone depends on everyone else."
~ Dar, The BeastMaster
Jean Anouilh - "What you get free costs too much."

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http://www.xogiving.org/ }} Starting November 12, One Laptop Per Child will be offering a Give 1 Get 1 Program for a brief window of time in North America. For $399, you will be purchasing two XO laptops—one that will be sent to empower a child to learn in a developing nation, and one that will be sent to your child at home. A limited number of solar-powered laptop computers will be available for purchase but programmers and developers interested in volunteer opportunities & some facinating programs to play with can start here to create a difference >> http://www.laptopfoundation.org/en/propose/#GrassrootsLearning

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FROM::

How rich are you?>>


It's official.
Even by only making $900 a YEAR you are
richer than 48.68% of all the people in the world that means
there are
~3,078,902,893 people poorer than you.

How do you feel about that?
Please consider donating just a small amount to
provide help
some of the poorest people in the world.
Many of their lives could be improved dramatically or
even saved if you donate just one hour's salary!
OUTRIGHT GIFTS OF CASH Make checks payable to:
Points of Light Foundation
Post Office Box 79246
Baltimore, MD 21279-0246

On My Own Honor ~=~ I pledge to donate a hour of time to help the world save itself for every 3 meals and hour of schooling & babysitting I can afford for my own Children.


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Some Usual "stuff about me":
I just finished my Psychology B.A. so have studied human biology, neuropsychology & indulged my interest in alternative medicine classes at the university level. My other main interests include Sci-Fi, Renaissance Faire, learning new skills without the use of electricity or investigating all the oddities of the world around us (without placing judgment & just allowing it to be present in the world). I am extremely interested in Oracle and Divination techniques as I know I have spent many life times in positions of holy and/or shamanic teaching & often have breakthrough memories. In this matter, I do not really discuss~ it is a flightingly brief sense of accuracy that comes & goes only with Ma'at-like rules of equality. All life is balance & I have struggled to balance myself all my life. Just like any gypsy, cross my palm with silver & find out what I see of your own future.. Still give me not gold for I value not the world of things.. I only wish to bring success to my clan & kinsmen. For I have Kith & I have Kin but it is a place of my own to stand and preach that I doth seek....
The voice within.


I adore cats and am simply miserable without one in my daily life... which might explain why I am obsessed with playing with yarns, threads and ribbon. So, I'm teaching myself how to crochet and want to learn macramé and finally masterknitting. I don't spend enough time on my craft projects as it is because the internet absorbs my interest if I'm not reading, watching the tele or trying finish my latest gift- I am web-hopping. I am not a massive talker of fiberarts here on my LJ but I know enough to teach other people to do crafts or to direct them to resources that allowed me to learn crafts I love... I have no problem teaching any of my craft interests in person & would love to start a therapeutic yarn-crafting group for people of any age. Yarn crafts are a great way of marking time & self-progress.
I began on my maternal Grandmother's crochet hooks. I'm thrilled with what I can do with crochet! I finally learned how to knit recently, have not finished any large projects. But, found all those years of reading how to fix mistakes in knitting trying figure out my mistakes in learning made me capable of fixing most knitter's oopsies... still crochet is a perfect metaphor for controlling your mistakes.... one stitch at a time, go forwards or backwards-- if you go farther forward carrying a flaw you will only have to go that much farther back to repair it.
I love working with my hands and any excuse to do so be it writing, reading or creating artsy things. I also enjoy machine sewing and making decorative silk ribbon embroidery pieces (but rarely have $, time or space for the projects & materials). I've done beading but, it's NOT my favorite material since they tend to try to escape me, magnetic beads really caught my eye as both a therapeutic & non-roll-away substitute. I also love the look of wire-wrapped jewelry but, not entirely confident in my ability to work on those kinds of materials. I was planning to work my way through graduate school with the Reconnection™. However, I want to decide which or if any grad school I feel would be able to teach me what I want to learn. Other than that: I'm "into" psi abilities, self-exploration learning- objective & subjective viewpoints, human growth- inner, mental & outer, mental /spiritual /metaphysical /physical trauma healing & continued exploration.
I also like to go to assorted conventions that relate to all my different interests. I love going to or wearing costumes for the Renaissance Pleasure Faire and am working towards a full regalia outfit of the proper era. I can often be found volunteering for a local alternative health, psychic interests or "New Age" seminars for the entrance fee. I love being helpful for new and up-coming individuals to make new contacts and meet people well-known in their related fields. Now, if I could make that into a career, I'd be thrilled!
& THE most difficult thing about me is trying to pronounce my name... Let me get that out there... It's Sir-rah (like the wine, petite Sirah... understand, I am not a lover of most wines nor short jokes.)




EDIT Jan. 2006:
I am trying to get in the habit of placing regular entries... At the least, I will post informational items about me from quiz and meme's since they are a fun & entertaining way to give insight & promote someone else's work that I do not feel like replicating. Hopefully, I will be able to bring information to light that will positively affect your life as well. I will try to keep memes/neggies!/quizzes to the first 15 days of a month and fill the rest of the month with actually informative rants and personal stuff if not articles that I think just rock. However, with a new baby I am not realistically able to live the same way I used too.. so forgive me for being a spotty LJ'er but baby comes first... er... DUH!
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****FUN Randomness:
When I believe in something &/or agree with it I promote the $@@@ out of it however I can. I personally hope to become the Complementary/ Alternative Health [Bad username: Zoë], wife & life partner to The incomparable theferret. Preferably, just getting the opportunity to become a great freelance/ work from home writer. I LOVE the concept of Web Connectivity and hope to make numerous friends who invite me to faraway lands to explore their favorite places, LOL!

You Are 60% Weird




You're so weird, you think you're *totally* normal. Right?
But you wig out even the biggest of circus freaks!


"What lies behind us, and what lies before us, are small matters compared to what lies within us."--
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here are some writings that I agree with and can be seen as applicable to myself and my interactions with others: I most likely friend-ed or linked to the public webpage at the time I posted these.****
*alterations & additions will be surrounded with {{}}

What Makes You Qualified? / What credentials do you have that qualify you to speak on this health subject?
My usual answer is: Well, I did NOT go to medical school!

That may have some radio listeners, but it is the best and most truthful reason why I am qualified to give you these opinions. Next, I'm qualified because no one has even offered to pay me to do research according to THEIR plan. Any research I do is because I want to do it, not because someone is paying me to do it. Finally, you'll have to be the judge, but I think of myself has having a high degree of personal integrity. I report honestly the data I find. {S_F:I have spent a life-long battle with Ritalin/ADD/ADHD dx, and then other more toxic psychiatric "medicines." It became apparent to me at an early age that the medicine I was receiving did nothing to truly help my body work. Later, experiences in life with medicine after medicine that ended up giving me only side effects that were too severe to continue on the medicines proved to me that I must learn the healing of my own body or be poisoned by modern wealthcare. I am now combating the problems of being a small individual who can absorb airborne toxins simply by sitting on a road side or living in the LA smogbank. In many ways, this gives me a unique perspective and allows me to connect unexplainable details together. I do believe that the airborne toxins of LA have something to do with my Bipolar diagnosis.}
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I love random things! When people say or do something randomly, it keeps me happy for many long hours. I'm odd, bizarro, and weird, but I also love my friends* and love to talk with them and help them out. I would do anything for my friends and am very loyal. I'm very in touch with my soul and love to paint and draw with pastels. {*Personally, I just as much love meeting new people and being a small voice of randomness for great people. You may hold my card now because I though you were a great person.}
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I don't drink, so when I go out, I Don't go to bars* to drink and I don't smoke unless I'm on fire (which is usually followed by my screaming with my arms flailing wildly!). No, seriously, I don't mind hanging out with people that socially drink (people who don't drink to get hammered). *{{Personally, I also avoid any place that's likely to bust my eardrums... they are so sensitive & often I can't even shout without my ears setting up this painful rattling feedback. September 2005- May 2006, my pregnancy has lead me to become so smell sensitive that I will get actively sick sitting in a car with a smoker or being where I can get a whiff of cigarette smoke on the wind or my clothes.}}
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My Sirah-created poetry of the Whirling Dervish:
Wherein I come to prove the existence of a driving force
that will direct you to madness when all else fails & yet
proves the unending interference of human structure on divine will and joy.
Having not stopped there, I will go on to bable and froth pronouncedly
unless I am dabbling in meaningless games.
So, thou go forth and preach the dance macabre or the Wayward Play;
the decisions to play doest always lie with you....
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"The Bucket Quote"
Another image that I find helpful is one that the
Islamic mystic Rumi speaks of when he says:
"Be a full bucket,
Drawn up the dark way of a well,
Then lifted up
into the light."
Be a full bucket. Be an inanimate object, something that does not think, but simply is, that does its job, that bears us upwards, up the "dark way of a well", into the light.



      
Marriage is love.






"Nothing strengthens authority as much as silence." ~ Leonardo Da Vinci








Free *ZEN* hugs!!! ("The hugs I would give if I could be there but I'm not sooo...") give Sirah_Fires more *HUGS* (From one of my favorite books: The Ship Who Searched by my 2 favorite authors)
Get hugs of your own- everybody deserves hugs!



Sometimes it is necessary
to reteach a thing its loveliness,
to put a hand on the brow of the flower,
and retell it in words and in touch,
it is lovely
until it flowers again from within,
of self-blessing....

-Galway Kinnell, from St. Francis and the Sow


"Fortune Cookie says: One who attempts can never be called weak.
I say; Remember, walking barefoot on eggshells hurts...
We all must wait for our wings to grow in & thank the colors that bless them
But, one can never learn to fly while the nest is still fouled." -- Sirah

There is a beautiful spider in my garden & I am absolutely certain it's a new kind of baby tarantula...
lots of orange, and fuzzy legs... & it kinda reminds me of me?!? Who put that in my secret garden????





MAAARRRIIIOOOOTTT!
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Imagine this : You are attacked at gunpoint in the presence of your two children, ages 3 and 5. Your attacker threatens to assault one of your children if you do not comply with his wishes. You have given him your wallet and begged him to leave you and your children alone. You are raped in front of your children.

Imagine this happening to your wife, your daughter, your sister, to any woman you know.

This happened to a woman in 2006, in a Marriott-owned parking garage. The attacker was convicted and, after striking a plea deal, was sentenced to 20 years in prison. (See this article: http://www.stamfordadvocate.com/ci_13048639). He had 20 other arrests on his record. Another more detailed article here: http://www.connpost.com/ci_13048604 .

>>Marriott’s lawyers claim: the hotel’s lawyers say that the victim “failed to exercise due care for her own safety and the safety of her children and proper use of her senses and facilities,” according to court documents cited in the stories. ( http://blogs.usatoday.com/ondeadline/2009/08/hotel-claims-rape-victim-negligent-in-attack-in-its-garage.html ) Another article mentions this here: http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/feature/2009/08/14/victim_blaming/index.html)

If you travel frequently or are planning to travel, I urge you to boycott Marriott and its brands: Marriott Hotels & Resorts, JW Marriott Hotels & Resorts, Renaissance Hotels & Resorts, Courtyard by Marriott, Residence Inn by Marriott, Marriott Conference Centers, TownePlace Suites by Marriott, SpringHill Suites by Marriott, Marriott Vacation Club, The Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company, The Ritz-Carlton Destination Club, Marriott ExecuStay, Marriott Executive Apartments and Grand Residences by Marriott.

If you have reservations with any of the above listed entities, please consider canceling your reservations and booking elsewhere. And be sure to tell Marriott why.

Marriott Corporate can be reached through the Web site, but physical letters of complaint are likely to carry more weight. Mail to: Corporate Headquarters, Marriott International,
10400 Fernwood Road, Bethesda, Md. 20817

Please feel free to share this with your mailing list.

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OKAY... obviously no gnashing of teeth and pitchfork mobs were started by the use of someone else's message to my favorite forum. So, for those of you who hadn't clicked on any of the links and Read Them... let me summarize the other language and tactics of Marriott and it's legal team that have me serious about not paying money to Marriott until they pay this lady a whole hell of a lot of money and perhaps pay for her to move to a totally different region.

>> In its defense, the Marriott hotel's legal team claims that the acts were beyond their control and that the woman failed to properly "mitigate their damages," one of the above article's says.

>> The woman, identified in court papers only as Jane Doe, claims in the suit that Fricker had been in the hotel and garage acting suspiciously days before the attack, as well as the afternoon of the attack, and the hotel failed to notice him, apprehend him or make him leave. During the attack, security personnel did not see or stop him, the suit claims. ...

The hotel also subpoenaed several people involved with the family, including a Pilates instructor, friends, tennis partners and the children's baby sitter. The woman's attorneys argue the individuals subpoenaed do not know anything about the attack, that the subpoenas inadvertently identified her to those people and that it was merely an effort by the hotel's attorneys to intimidate her. << THAT move pisses me right the hell off!

So, since the security personnel did a half-arsed job of taking notice of potential issues within the Marriott property it is okay to try to notify unaware acquaintances of the woman's failure to prevent her own rape?

As Casmyr on Ravelry said:: I guess the thing that really irritates me is: why did they think to try to defend the case at all? (I’m assuming that the woman brought the suit against Marriott){<< she assumed right}

The response that would have elicited the least amount of ire is: Marriott settles. They know they have liability; they approach the victim to settle before it ever goes to court.

Basically, they KISS HER ASS and take steps to ensure that this NEVER happens to another woman (or man) ever again. Increase security, install more and/or better lighting, more/better camera surveliance, whatever-not-my-area-of-expertise.

They can then go to the press and agree that is was a horrible thing, should never have happened, and look what we are doing to make sure it never happens here on our watch again. They would have gained a lot of public support that way, I think. At least, I would be okay with staying there again.

Instead, they drag out the old “blame the victim” card.

That’s right, assholes. See how well that works for you now.

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And again here I go...
Bored now
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Well, it's been fun using this account but when I can barely convince myself that I want to add to the crazy and mess of this journal by writing in it... it's time to go elsewhere.

So, I now have Sirah-Morgan.LiveJournal.com and it is completely unnecessary for people to follow me over there. I have a Facebook account for that... just realize it matches the new LJ account (und if you cannot understand that hint... please do not contact me). If something really goes down, I might feel more comfortable commenting on it here than trying to bare my soul over there as it will be more of a true publc blog and working profile then a friending account. I will also probably be using it to keep track of my creative endeavors in Acrylic painting, Crochet, Knitting, Spinning, Sewing, Writing and Cooking. Yea, o verily do I have tons planned for the coming year in stuff that might only interest me. I just really would like to keep it signed in rather than this account as my "go to" place anymore. Please, do not mention this account there or try to pester me at that blogging account into posting at this account over here. If you don't understand how that might be inappropriate maybe you aren't mature enough to use the internet this year... please, exit the net now and experience some real life to base your decisions on before coming back. No, really... GO.

I'm a mother now. I will most likely be able to move to my own place and freely pursue my true interests and creative impulses within the next 5 months. I will have access to my sewing machine, our wedding gifts, a writing desk, 2+ spindles, a toaster oven and my hoard of patterns, books, prior writings/incomplete novels and new age books/tools. Also, tons of clothes I will never fit into again unless I loose weight the next time I get pregnant... like I did with my son's pregnancy.

Having all that locked away from me has been almost a physical pain as it represented the resources and tools to do and learn many things that I am invested in and really stifled my creative ability. But, heck it's probably the entire reason I joined a painting class... and painting makes me a lot saner. Can't be disappointed with those results!


As Soon As I am settled away from my parents I want to...::

Do my best and focus on being a good mother to my son/future children.
Learn to improve my cooking.
Get more disciplined about my writing (write down all the ideas that come to me rather than give them an assigned concept and then leave it there).
Begin working on the 3 children's books that came to me in just the last 10 months.
Work on painting on a regular basis (perhaps paint my story ideas to help delineate more about them).
Get healthier and perhaps do some weight training again (good for pregnancy).
Begin juicing with my magic bullet blender system (wedding gift).
Steal my parents unused bread machine and frakking use it.
Add to the crochet stories & patterns that have been accepted for publishing under the name Sirah Morgan (1 story and 1 pattern for now!).
Sew some 'not a bra"s to help my back.
Learn to comb fiber, Spin it and ply it as yarn.
Make taking care of my skin, teeth and spine/back a priority.
Do more about my interest in Renaissance Faires and gaming.
Actually listen to music of my own selection again.
Decorate and control a home that welcomes visitors.
Become more of the person I have always wanted to be.
Look into some work from home methods.


I'm ready to be busy again! I think this list might just keep me happy for a while to come. I know I have been making this detailed list in my head for the last 4 years and perhaps much of it has been a desire of mine even before that time. Now, it's just about living up to who I expect myself to be. And that is a great adventure that makes me happy. I think I have been waiting to get to this point all of my life and I intend to enjoy the ride. I'll check in now and then but I doubt you won't be able to find me if you just go look.

Bell Sleeves are BAAACK!
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Okay, just be on the look out for crochet patterns or good clothing patterns for me, m'kay? I hope to be able to make my own shirts before the year is out and preferably make my own pull-on sleeves like the ones from my wedding... but for everyday useage. I have no ideas why my arms are cold mostly between my elbow and wrist in any kind of breeze.

Facebook Tarot Reading-- based on boredom
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Your Power Cards-- These cards represent strengths and abilities you were given at birth.
 
<   Your Desire Cards -- These cards focus on your ambitions and dreams.
 
<tr></tr><   Your Core Cards - These cards represent your most basic traits.
 
<tr></tr><   Your Growth Cards -- These cards represent the major influences on you in the near future.
 
>   Your Lucky Cards -- These cards represent factors that favor you


The Hermit represents the need to distance yourself from the people and events in your life that are causing undue strain on your emotions. There are times in your life when seclusion and isolation are warranted. The Hermit is a card of discovery and enlightenment, which can only develop by spending time alone with your thoughts. Your energy will be depleted quickly in social situations.

When The High Priestess is among your personal cards, the influence of The Hermit may be increased. Having The World or The Lovers in your personal cards may diminish the influence of The Hermit.


The High Priestess is the mysterious one and counterpart to the Magician. She symbolizes all that we are unable to perceive or comprehend, as she travels in dimensions that we can only imagine exist. She is able to uncover the infinite potential that exists within all humans. Her patience is perhaps her greatest virtue.

When The Hermit or Hanged Man are among your personal cards, the influence of The High Priestess may be increased. Having the Magus in your personal cards may diminish the influence of The High Priestess.


The Moon represents those unknown forces and cycles that are out of your control. While aware of its presence, you are unable to comprehend the influence the Moon has on your life. While this is a time full of mystery and uncertainty, it is also a time of great imagination and creativity. You must be prepared to venture into the unknown and follow uncharted paths.

When The Magus or The Tower are among your personal cards, the influence of The Moon may be increased. Having The Star or The Sun in your personal cards may diminish the influence of The Moon.

Read 2 more Hermit's and another High Priestess here.

The Empress is in tune with Nature and symbolizes the ability to connect with the planet. Nurturing and caring, she is often thought to represent birth itself. Not necessarily the birth of a child, but perhaps the birth of a new project or business venture. Although she appreciates the simple things in life, she is not afraid to let loose and enjoy abundance.

When The Lover or The Star are among your personal cards, the influence of The Empress may be increased. Having the Emperor or Death in your personal cards may diminish the influence of The Empress.


The Lovers represent a powerful union and the harmony of opposites. It represents the combining of two elements to create an even greater entity. This card often represents the formation of a new relationship or the strengthening of a current one. Love can come your way at anytime. There are difficult decisions to be made and conflict may arise when temptation and desire overcome morals and ethics.

The Lovers' influence is increased when The Empress is among your personal cards. Having The Hierophant or The Hermit in your personal cards may diminish the influence of the Lovers.


Judgement signifies the start of a new journey, guided by lessons learned in the past. It represents the culmination of your life�s experiences and is about rebirth and resurrection. It is time to face demons from the past and make a fresh start using a clean slate. Make that final decision that will finally plunge you into a new situation.

When Justice or The Fool are among your personal cards, the influence of Judgement may be increased. Having Death in your personal cards may diminish the influence of Judgement.

And then another High Priestess... umm, why are only the Major Arcana involved in this reading? They too lazy to use all the other 52 cards?

Contemplating goals
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I took the 43 Things Personality Quiz and found out I'm a
Romantic Self-Improving Reinventer


& once again If you friend me and don't tell me who the eff you are I am reporting you as a spammer! The last 20 peoplew ho friended me have had theor accounts revoked so... it's no longer comical to find yet another "you have been friended by Somepersonana" message from LJ.com and then come back in a week or so to check out the person and see a line thru their name. Just comment to me that you are friending me and I will be happy to welcome you to the ranks of not being a spammer bot!
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Holy Assholes Batman!- Sexuality discrim in the DSM-V
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I have posted a lot of shit over the years... but this one time I urge you to find a way to read and then act on the following article. New revisions being considered to the DSM-V are widening the definition of sexual deviancy so much so that swingers and other experimental couples/individuals could possibly be put at risk of being labeled by the new DSM standards. The term "phenotypically normal... human partners" is being considered as a new diagnositic definition. (Wow, abnormal people can't be attractive... who the fuck decided Twiggy was god and we should all worship?)

ANYTHING "other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling" with said normal humans can be labeled as a deviancy and have a fancy psychiatric term applied.  This label of 'devious' can even threaten the labeled's interactions with their kids for stuff that has nothing to do with their parenting interaction or by any doctor who disapproves of who they are sharing a sexual relationship with by recommending that they would not be a fit parent 'due to mental defect or deviancy'!

ALSO, the new standards would label cross-dressing by a straight male as devious but leave gay men and women alone. WTF? ANYthing stimulating can be coined as a "Paraphilia" subset if it is not penetratory sex and "'paraphilias should include all "erotic interests that are not focused on copulatory or precopulatory behaviors, or the equivalent behaviors in same-sex adult partners." '" Don't even try to mention furries or pvc-wearing or hell FUN in a psychiatric setting from now on... you might need to be drugged to the gills and rehabilitated! Or mabe we can just round people up with these deviancies and make them wear a patch and send them to a camp somewhere to retrain them... oh,wait, it’s been done.

Anyone else see this as a backward step and a fundamental betrayal of American rights and other things that have been fought for by really uptight people who Wouldn’t have to worry about this?

Located:: http://www.feministing.com/archives/015254.html
Why feminists should be concerned with the impending revision of the DSM

By Julia Serano

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) has been called the "bible of mental illness" because it lists and defines all of the "official" psychiatric diagnoses according to the American Psychiatric Association. The DSM is in the early stages of undergoing its 5th major revision; each previous revision has seen the total number of mental disorders recognized (some might say invented) by the APA greatly increase. Last year, trans activists were particularly concerned to learn that Ken Zucker and Ray Blanchard had been named to play critical lead roles in determining the language of the DSM sections focusing on gender and sexuality, especially given that these researchers are well known for forwarding theories and therapies that are especially pathologizing and stigmatizing to gender-variant people.

Blanchard has recently presented some of his suggestions to revise the "Paraphilia" section of the DSM. In the past, this section has generally received little attention from feminists, as it has been primarily limited to several sexual crimes (e.g., pedophilia, frotteurism and exhibitionism) and a handful of other generally consensual but unnecessarily stigmatized sexual acts (such as fetishism and BDSM) that are considered "atypical" by sex researchers. However, there are two aspects of the proposed Paraphilia section revision that should be of great concern to feminists, as well as anyone else who is interested in gender and sexual equality.

Expanding "Paraphilia"

First, Blanchard is proposing a significant expansion of the DSM's definition of "paraphilia" to include:

"any intense and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling with phenotypically normal, consenting adult human partners."

The first concern here is the term "phenotypically normal" (meaning "normal" with regards to observable anatomical or behavioral traits). Thus, according to this definition, attraction to any person deemed by sex researchers to be "abnormal" or "atypical" could conceivably be diagnosed as paraphilic. So, do you happen to be attracted to, or in a relationship with, someone who is differently-abled or differently-sized? Or someone who is gender-variant in some way? Well congratulations, you may now be diagnosed with a paraphilia!

Seriously.

 

Blanchard and other like-minded sex researchers have coined words like Gynandromorphophilia (attraction to trans women), Andromimetophilia (attraction to trans men), Abasiophilia (attraction to people who are physically disabled), Acrotomophilia (attraction to amputees), Gerontophilia (attraction to elderly people), Fat Fetishism (attraction to fat people), etc., and have forwarded them in the medical literature to denote the presumed "paraphilic" nature of such attractions. This tendency reinforces the cultural belief that young, thin, able-bodied cisgender women and men are the only legitimate objects of sexual desire, and that you must be mentally disordered in some way if you are attracted to someone who falls outside of this ideal. It's bad enough that such cultural norms exist in the first place, but to codify them in the DSM is a truly terrifying prospect.

Another frightening aspect of Blanchard's proposal is that any sexual interest other than "genital stimulation or preparatory fondling" is now, by definition, a paraphilia. In his presentation, he claimed that paraphilias should include all "erotic interests that are not focused on copulatory or precopulatory behaviors, or the equivalent behaviors in same-sex adult partners." Copulatory is defined as related to coitus or sexual intercourse (i.e., penetration sex). So, essentially, all forms of sexual arousal and expression that are not centered around penetration sex may now be considered paraphilias.

So, do you and your partner occasionally role-play or talk dirty to one another over the phone? Or engage in arousing play that is not intended to necessarily lead to "doing the deed"? Do you masturbate? Do you get a sexual charge from wearing a particularly sexy outfit or performing any act that falls outside of "genital stimulation or preparatory fondling"? Well, then congratulations, you can be diagnosed with a paraphilia!

"Transvestic Disorder," Gender Inequality and the Sexualization of Feminine Gender Expression

Blanchard also wants to retain (with minor tweaking) the "Transvestic Fetishism" diagnosis from the previous DSM Paraphilia section; the new diagnosis is to be called "Transvestic Disorder." Like it's predecessor, it applies to "heterosexual males" who experience "recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving cross-dressing." As Kelly Winters of GID Reform Advocates points out:

"Curiously, women and gay men are free to wear whatever clothing they chose without a label of mental illness. This criterion serves to enforce a stricter standard of conformity for straight males than women or gay men. Its dual standard not only reflects the social privilege of heterosexual males in American culture, but promotes it. One implication is that biological males who emulate women, with their lower social status, are presumed irrational and mentally disordered, while biological females who emulate males are not. A second implication stereotypically associates femininity and cross-dressing with male homosexuality and serves to punish straight males who transgress this stereotype."

The "heterosexual male" nomenclature should also be of concern to many trans women, as Blanchard (and like-minded psychologists) routinely mis-describe lesbian-identified trans women as "heterosexual male transsexuals" in the medical literature. Since the Transvestic Disorder diagnosis does not explicitly exempt transsexuals, then a queer-identified trans woman (such as myself) could theoretically be diagnosed as having "Transvestic Disorder" any time that I have *any kind* of sexual urge while wearing women's clothing. Since I wear women's clothing pretty much every day of my life these days, my sexuality would presumably be considered perpetually transvestically disordered according to this diagnosis.

Kelley Winters has also written at length about how the vagueness of Transvestic Fetishism/Disorder wording enables the diagnosis of individuals who do not experience any sexual arousal in association with wearing women's clothing. She argues:

"It serves to sexualize a diagnosis that does not clearly require a sexual context. Crossdressing by males very often represents a social expression of an inner sense of identity. In fact, the clinical literature cites many cases, considered diagnosable under transvestic fetishism, which present no sexual motivation for cross-dressing and by no means represent fetishism."

We live in a heterosexual-male-centric culture, where femaleness and feminine gender expression are routinely sexualized, and where sexual symbolism is projected onto women's clothing. For this reason, people (including psychologists such as Blanchard) regularly sexualize trans women, male crossdressers, and others on the trans feminine spectrum, and attribute sexual motives to us, even when no such motives exist. Thus, the Transvestic Disorder diagnosis both sexualizes people on the trans feminine spectrum, while simultaneously reinforcing the societal sexualization of women and feminine gender expression more generally.

Sexism and the DSM Paraphilia Section

Proponents of the DSM Paraphilia section would argue that paraphilia diagnoses are only applicable when the individual in question exhibits "significant distress or impairment" over their sexual urges. This ignores the fact that many happy and healthy individuals are sometimes diagnosed with paraphilias. Further, the mere fact that Transvestic Fetishism, Masochism and Sadism have been listed in the DSM (under the same category as several nonconsensual sexual crimes, no less) is regularly cited by those who wish to delegitimize or legally discriminate against male crossdressers and people who practice consensual BDSM. Labeling any form of gender or sexual expression as a "mental disorder" is necessarily stigmatizing and ignores the vast amount of gender and sexual variation that exists in the world.

It was not that long ago that Homosexuality and Nymphomania were listed in the "Sexual Deviation" (which was later renamed "Paraphilia") section of the DSM. They were removed, in part, due to public pressure, as both diagnoses only served to reinforce cultural double standards (i.e., the idea that same-sex attraction is less legitimate that heterosexual attraction, and that women should exhibit less sexual interest than men, respectively). We have a word to describe double standards that exist with regards to sex, gender or sexuality--it's called sexism.

The proposed revision of the DSM Paraphilia section is sexist in numerous ways. We, as feminists, should fight to have *all* forms of sexual expression that occur between consenting adults removed from the DSM entirely. And we should especially fight for the removal of "Transvestic Disorder" on the grounds that it sexualizes feminine gender expression and reinforces rigid cis-hetero-male-centric gender norms.

What you can do to help:

1) raise awareness about this issue in feminist circles.

2) contact the American Psychiatric Association and share your concern with them.

3) if you live in the San Francisco Bay Area, please come out to the protest of the upcoming American Psychiatric Association conference on Monday, May 18th between 6:00pm to 7:30pm in front of the Moscone Center. This protest will focus primarily on the removal of the trans-focused DSM diagnoses Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and Transvestic Disorder. While the GID diagnosis is of great concern to trans activists (including me), I did not discuss it here because it is not listed as a Paraphilia, and because (to the best of my knowledge) no information has been released regarding proposed revisions to GID in the next DSM.

For more information about the Paraphilia section of the DSM, I encourage you to read DSM-IV-TR and the Paraphilias: An Argument for Removal by Charles Moser and Peggy J. Kleinplatz.

For more info about "Transvestic Disorder," check out Transvestic Disorder and Policy Dysfunction in the DSM-V by Kelly Winters. (Also, her blog and book provide excellent critiques of both the Transvestic Disorder and GID diagnoses).

Julia Serano is an Oakland, California-based writer, spoken word performer, trans activist, biologist, and author of Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity.

 

Posted by Jessica - May 06, 2009, at 08:58AM | in Analysis , Trans Activism

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